So You Want To Date A Tranny?
By far the most common question we get asked by e-mail is of the type… "I am coming to London and want to meet a transvestite, where do I go and what do I do?". Of course it's not usually as eloquently phrased as that, nor is it just a date that most men are after (and let us say here and now that trying to impress a t*girl by stating or even illustrating the size of your manhood when first contacting them is NOT the way to win yourself a night out!)We therefore thought it would be helpful to provide some advice and try and explain what we think most transvestites and cross-dressers are looking for in a 'date' and hopefully (unless our view of what girls who do date guys are after is so different from that of other t*girls) provide some insight into the way us 'girlz' think on these matters. We should add that there are some trannies who really do just want casual sex but it's usually clear from their advertisements, profile and pictures that that's the case…!
'Bi When Dressed'?
Many t*girls claim that they are 'bi (sexual) when dressed', but not when they're undressed! This is taken to mean that that they feel attracted to men when they have got their best frock and high heels on, but when they're wearing jeans and a t*shirt and watching the footie then the longing goes away. Such statements give cause for thought - can a person change their sexual inclination purely by donning a different set of clothes? Maybe so, or at least their outlook is changed. What could make a woman feel more feminine than having a handsome gentleman on whose arm she can be draped. If this is true, you are much more likely to catch the attention of the transvestite of your dreams if you make the effort to go out and meet them when they're feeling their girliest and wearing their sexiest outfits, rather than when they're sat at home on their computer or in a chat room.That aside, how does an interested male (semi-affectionately known as an 'admirer' and disaffectionally referred to as 'TF' or 'tranny f*cker') actually get to meet and date a gorgeous, glamorous transvestite, cross-dresser or transsexual (or even the more regular ones)?
Remember that most t*girls are nervous of meeting anyone for the first time, whether, male, female or anywhere inbetween. This is totally natural. There are those in society who would take great pleasure in attacking anything that doesn't conform to their view of what is normal, and t*girls aren't normal - they're special! So the first thing that any man wishing to meet up with a t*girl needs to do is establish credibility and trust. They need to convince the girl concerned that they are genuine and gentlemanly. If we had a pound for every time that one of the girlz at Trans-MISSION had told us that they had been inappropriately propositioned whilst out and about, we would be able to buy a whole new wardrobe of outfits, which judging by the outfit pictured on the right would be no bad thing! Chatting and having something interesting to say (compliments are great but they have to be backed up by something more than just lust and desire) are really important. Getting drunk and asking, "Do you come here often" - and believe us, this happens, a lot - are more likely to get you blacklisted (and a black eye) than get you to first, or any other base!
Maybe an escort is more your thing?
- Get ready for rejection - very few of the girls you will meet are actually looking for a 'boyfriend'. You will get turned away or put down many times. Some girls are better at this than others: some will give you a clear 'no', some will just shy away, and some (but few) may leave you with a slap on the cheek! Bounce back and try again but don't be a pest - eventually you'll find the girl of your dreams.
- Relax and be yourself - it doesn't matter what you look like, a relaxed, cheerful approach is more likely to pay dividends than a sweaty, nervous, stilted, half-drunken one.
- Be a Gentleman - talk to t*girls in the same way you would treat any female. Be courteous, generous and genuine and you'll find girls much more willing to respond in kind.
- Take your time - if it's 'Wham, Bam, thank-you Mam' that you're after, then you're unlikely to be successful except at certain kinds of events (think 'fetish clubs'). Getting to know a girl and building up her trust is especially important with t*girls.
- Patience is a virtue - Actually, Patience was one of Jasmine's 'maiden aunts' apparently. But if you're e-mailing or calling a t*girl, don't expect an immediate response. Most girls can't necessarily, for one reason or another, check their e-mail or text messages as often as they (or you) might like. Oh, and if you've managed to arrange to meet up with one, remember one very, very important thing: trannies are always late! And whilst we are on the subject of showing up, planning to meet a transvestite and then not showing up yourself is a 100% guaranteed way to make sure you have no chance ever again with the girl concerned.
- Don't dick around - what's in your trousers is much the same as what's up most t*girl's skirts and it's not something that most are interested in seeing (until the time is right). Don't try to impress by tails [sic] of your conquests unless it's Mount Everest you happen to have conquered.
- Be prepared to give and take - At the end of the day, a guy is just a t*girl who isn't in a dress, make-up and high heels. Whatever it is you're after, remember that the girl you're talking to might be after much the same.
If you actually want to meet a t*girl, the best places to go are specialist tranny clubs. When these events are in full swing, there will be upwards of 150 transvestites, transsexuals, cross-dressers and any other moniker you choose to use in one place. Remember, not all these girls will be looking for a date, but if you want to practise your tranny chat-up lines, these are the busiest places to look. Beyond this there are smaller, local, get togethers. The Trans-MISSION links pages list many such local events, though many are only meant for t*girls and their partners and would not necessarily encourage attendance by single males. It might be best to contact the organisers first, just to check what kind of event it is and whether you would be welcome.If you manage to convince a tranny to meet you for a drink, to get to know them, gay bars or pubs are good places to try as you won't raise any eyebrows being there, and there's usually one such place in most towns (in fact they are often the self same places where the local 'tranny socials' are held). Other common meeting places include the bars of hotels. Depending on the hotel, this may take more bravery from the t*girl concerned as not only does she have to cope with the nervousness of meeting you, but she also has to cope with whoever else may be in the bar or lobby. The upside of hotels is that in many cases the 'girl' can book a room to use for getting changed which can simplify travel arrangements. What else she might use the room for depends on how well you get on with her!
If you are one of those insatiable people who just can't wait to get their hands on a cross-dresser, transvestite or transsexual, then there are loads of dating sites around. Remember that the descriptions (and sometimes the pictures) don't always match reality. But if you want to chat to someone tonight, then check out one of the girls below#8230;!
