Finding A Partner
Rather than being the 'best of both worlds', being a tranny is more like living in the third world when it comes to relationships. For many girls, their transvestism remains in the closet whilst they carry on with their day-to-day lives, their partners (male or female) never knowing about their femme side and, on the face of it, this often appears to work. The most difficult aspect of continuing on this road is that when the closet is opened and the partner finds out what's in it, they often feel decieved, cheated and lied to, which is, after all, the truth! 
Frankie and Wendy
A happy TG/RG couple
A happy TG/RG couple
For those who dare venture out of the cross-dressing closet, and especially those that are single, then the situation for finding a partner is sadly not that straightforward. Of course you could hide your transvestism from potential partners, but if it's something you enjoy, then this will lead to discovery or resentment and frustration which will inevitably flow into your relationship. When you think about it, finding a partner that accepts you for who you are is like finding a needle in a haystack. For example:
- Straight women aren't attracted to T*Girls because they aren't interested in a relationship with another woman;
- Straight men aren't attracted to T*Girls because they aren't interested a relationship with another man;
- Gay women aren't attracted to T*Girls because they aren't interested in a relationship with a man; and
- Gay men aren't attracted to T*Girls because they aren't interested a relationship with a woman.
It's Not All Bad
Of course finding another person to share a relationship with is a lot more than just the practicalities of which peg fits which hole (so to speak). Not only must there be an attraction between the two parties, but they must share all the usual things that make relationships work, like common interests, a reasonable geographic proximity (or the ability and willingness to travel), the ability to show affection, and similar goals in life. To make matters more complicated, if two trannies are to share a fulfilling relationship, then the physical attraction may be between the 'girls', but the relationship is more than likely between the 'boys', so it has to work on more levels than either a normal straight or gay relationship.What about admirers (men who like to think themselves straight but who like girls with 'a little extra')?
Sadly, most of these men are not exactly the pick of the crop (sorry guys but it's often true). It has been suggested that many admirers are incapable of attracting a genetic girl and think that trannies are easy prey, as we are so vain to succomb to their lame advances. We don't subscribe to that view! However, there must be some reason why many (not all) admirers are a little unsavoury though we have no idea what it is. That being said, there are some handsome chaps who make an effort to be seen at Trans-MISSION and other tranny venues from time-to-time, so it's not all bad..
The Tranny Fan Club
To some extent how much your femme facade needs a relationship depends on how important your transvestism is in your life. After all, would you tell someone on your first date, that you were a fan of Barry Manilow. Even if you were the head of the Barry Manilow fan-club, you might regard this information of little importance compared to your winning smile, fashion sense, charming wit and other redeeming features. Let them get to know you first before dropping this spanner into the works. Unless the other person could be expected to have an adverse reaction to your revelation then everything is OK. But sadly, admitting that you are transgendered is likely to have an adverse reaction in many cases and although it may not be what drives your life forward, it can most certainly knock any potential partner off the rails.So is it a completely hopeless situation? Where shall we go tonight? Both questions have similar answers, which is that 'it depends'! Don't let our views dissuade you from seeking happiness, we know all manner of T*Girls, some married, some with boyfriends, some with other trannies, some closeted, some out, who live happy and fulfilling lives, so nothing is impossible!
